Everyday MannersThe day-to-day business of life reaches far and wide today and the integration of gay people into the “face” of America means that we’re out and about in unprecedented ways. Whether that means entertaining at home or in a restaurant, figuring out whether to use e-mail or pen and paper to write a thank you or condolence note, or knowing how to introduce your partner — not to mention the do’s and don’ts of coming out at work or traveling at home or overseas — these are all parts of everyday life, all subject to the rules of good manners Emily Post and Amy Vanderbilt won't tell you how to navigate these waters as an LGBT person, or a straight person who wants to do the right thing by gay friends and family. But I can help, and this is the section where you'll find the answers to a wide range of questions, from hosting an overnight guest (or being one), to determining the right workplace attire, dealing with homophobia and bullying, and planning a funeral for a deceased lover. Connections. Entertaining. Workplace. Travel. The holidays. Travel. Political manners. And illness and grieving. It's all here.
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"What's the politically correct way to refer to my gay and lesbian friends' beloveds?"
Avoid improvising. There are no bonus points for creativity. If you’re not sure of their preferred way of referring to each other, then ask them. After all, these are your friends! “How do the two of you like to be introduced?” should do the trick. 
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I want to be politically correct and use the right terminology when referring to the beloveds of my gay and lesbian friends. Any advice?
Listen to your friends as they introduce this important person. What words do they use to characterize their relationship? Is it boyfriend/girlfriend, partner/spouse, or husband/wife? Then, when it comes your turn to introduce one or both of them, use that same language.About the Book
Confused about coming out, dating, sex, and love? Find all the answers here - makes a great reference guide for you, and a great gift for the straight people in your life who need a little guidance.
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